You are a victim? Think again! You could become a victor, if you think like one!
” A wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim.”- Maya Angelou
Yes, you have been a victim. I agree. In fact, in one way or another, we have all been victims. We have all have gone through things in life that has belittled us. Shamed us. Hurt us. Mocked us. Whether at the hands of people or at the hands of circumstances, we have all been victims.
But it is not a label we should carry on our shoulders. It is a label we should lay down to become victors. It is a label we should lay down to become conquerors. It is a label that we should discard. Period!
My country, Sierra Leone, is just emerging from a two year old Ebola epidemic. For two years, we were victims to Ebola. For two years, we suffered loss of all kinds. For two years, we suffered stagnation. For two years, we cried and mourned. And we are still suffering from the ripple effects of Ebola. We are still, in subtle and overt ways, being discriminated. Our economy is suffering from a substantial hit. Things are harder now more than ever for the average Sierra Leonean.
But I say, we are not victims anymore. That’s right! I say we should take off our victim label and clothe ourselves with a victor label. I say we should be stronger and more resilient now more than ever. I say we should be motivated now more than ever to rebuild and restrategise. Why? Because I feel, we were close to some sort of breakthrough right before the Ebola crisis hit.
I feel the closer you are to your breakthrough, the hotter the fire becomes. The closer you are to your breakthrough, the more you face opposition and hardship. The closer you are to your breakthrough, the more you come in contact with shady characters. The closer you are to become a victor!
Why does this happen? To derail you. To keep you down. To distract you. To make you lose hope. To make you lose the will to fight and conquer. To prevent you from gaining your much deserved, long awaited breakthrough. To prevent you from becoming a victor. So when this opposition inevitably comes, you should stand strong like a mighty oak tree! Why? Because your breakthrough is just round the corner.
What is the harm in remaining a victim? Here is the harm:
You become the obstacle to your own breakthrough!
If you are always thinking you are a victim, you will always do victim like things. If you are always thinking you are a victim, you will always say victim like things. If you are always thinking you are victim, you will always be in a victim like state. You stay in a perpetual state of self pity, stagnation and failure.
Yes, you have felt incredible pain. Yes, you have felt incredible loss. No one can understand what you went through because you went through it. You wore the shoes so you alone knows where it pinched you the most. But. Life. Must. Go. On.
The world does not stop spinning just because you went through something. The world moves on and you have to move on with it. Or else you will be left behind. You do not want to wake up one morning and realize you have not accomplished anything. Not even a tiny little thing. And what would be the reason? You were too occupied playing the victim.
What should you do with your victim experience? Learn from it!
Put things in place, on the inside and outside of you, to prevent the same thing from happening again. Were you duped? Learn to be more cautious. Not paranoid. Cautious. There is a fine line between caution and paranoia. Did someone disappoint you? Learn how to hit the right note in maintaining the appropriate level of expectations you have of others.
There are six letters in the word victim and six letters in the word victor. There is an equal chance for you to be either. You choose! After all, the decision solely depends on who? You!
Remember, be sincerely you!