An Open Letter to Teen Moms out there
Dear Teen Moms,
I just want you to know that you are STRONG. When I think of everything you go through, day in and day out, I cannot help but be proud of you. For I know the constant stigma you face. The stares. The condescending remarks. The labeling. The discrimination. The rejection. It seems that no matter what you do, no matter how hard you try, people rather choose to remember you by just that one action. But keep in mind, that that is just human nature. We, in a sick way, love to revel in the bad. It seems we just cannot help ourselves. But what is important, at the end of the day, are the thoughts you hold of yourself.
I just want you to know that you are BEAUTIFUL and will always be. No seriously, you are! Inside and out! I am not just saying that to just say it. Do not let anyone and I mean anyone (from parents to strangers), make you feel less. There is beauty in taking responsibility for every action you make and dealing with the consequences. There is beauty in still believing that you are beautiful and that you still deserve to enjoy the best things in life. The world is still there for your taking. So you just have to reach out and grab it! Your dreams may be on hold for a little while. But only you have the power to completely destroy them or pursue them. And turn them into a reality!
I just want you to know that you are RESILIENT. You truly are! Yes, it is hard. Yes, it keeps getting harder. But there is absolutely NOTHING on this earth that is impossible to conquer. And there is absolutely NOTHING in this life that lasts forever. It shall pass, in time. There is a term known as regression to the mean (average). It is a fancy way of saying that no matter how bad things get, no matter how great things get, things always find a way of moving to the middle, of leveling out. So keep on keeping on!
To the teenager who just found out you are pregnant, I would like you to gather all the courage you have and confide in an adult as soon as possible. I know you must be really scared right now. And for that very reason, it is best to talk to an adult for morale and support. Preferably that would be your parent(s). But if not, talk to an adult who you trust. An adult who you look up to. It could be a relative. A family friend. A social worker. A teacher. There must be that one person. You do not have to do this alone. Please do not make any hasty decisions that may affect your health, or worse, threaten your life.
Genevieve Nnaji got pregnant at an early age. But look how far she has come!
Maya Angelou gave birth to her only son at the age 17. And she impacted so many lives.
So what is my point? You already have a beautiful, prosperous and productive life awaiting you. So it is left to you to envision it, embrace it, believe in it and still make up your mind to pursue it.
Do not beat yourself up too much. For what has happened, has happened! What matters is how you choose to handle the good and bad that life throws at you from the moment you know you are pregnant. And no matter what, please endeavor to learn from this and remain sincere, upright, vivacious and full of love!
To all the teen moms who are conquering. To all the teen moms who are struggling in different ways. To all the teen moms who remain dedicated to their children in spite of it all. To all the teen moms who are making their presence felt by their kids. To all the teen moms who keep doing the best that they can, you are so absolutely, sincerely, marvelously awesome! And I mean that!
To teen moms who are now adults and have gotten their bachelor’s, master’s or PhD degree, girl, you are amazing! To all the teen moms who are now adults and know how to manage their finances, wow, that is commendable. To all the teen moms who are now adults and hold leadership positions, you are a source of true inspiration! To all teen moms who are now adults and are amazing mothers, a standing ovation to you all!
Continue to be wonderful moms! Continue to be the best mothers! Continue to hold on and pursue your dreams!
I just want to state, for the record, that I am in no way trying to encourage teen pregnancy. But for teenagers who do get pregnant, what is the point crying over spilled milk? 71% of teen mothers in Sierra Leone are reported to be illiterate according to UNFPA . Thus, it is best to concentrate on their rehabilitation. It is best to focus energies on rebuilding their self-esteem and reintegrating them back into the educational system successfully.
What good comes from crying them down and dehumanizing them (which is so extremely common in Sierra Leone)? There is a difference between rebuking a child with love and rebuking them with anger. And it is best to focus energies on how to reduce the number of teen pregnancies in Sierra Leone. And doing that together as a nation!
So in honor of teen mothers all around the world, I created this tank top:
Please read the following posts on child marriage and teen pregnancy to have a better understanding on how these serious issues prevail in Sierra Leone. More information can be found in the ‘Issues in Sierra Leone’ section of the Sincerely ShirleyGO blog.
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Remember, be sincerely you!